Outsmarting the riptide of domestic violence [electronic resource] : metaphor and mindfulness for change / Pat Pernicano.

Includes bibliographical references and index.

Preface -- Acknowledgments -- Introduction -- Stories for pre-contemplation -- Investing in others : relationships -- Weighing the risks and benefits of change -- Tuning in : parent-child interaction -- Repeated exposure to domestic violence -- Self-destructive behavior -- Confronting entitlement -- Stories for contemplation -- Peeling away defenses -- Safety for self and others -- The blame game -- Self-protection -- Thinking and planning in relationships -- Relationship roles -- The cycle of abuse -- Beyond sex to intimacy -- Stores for preparation -- The powerful pull of the past -- Having the right tools: survival skills -- Facing your own monsters -- Identifying and expressing feelings -- Change takes time -- Codependency -- What comes next? : planning ahead -- Recognizing danger -- Opening your heart -- Expecting the worst : fight or flight -- Stories for action -- Understanding PTSD -- Telling your story : trauma narratives -- Getting past the obstacles -- The whole is greater : becoming new and different -- Mood management -- Seeking approval : attachment disruption -- Cleaning up addictive behaviors -- Trauma reminders -- Regulating affect -- Speaking the same language -- Avoiding blind spots -- Giving birth to something remarkable -- Unconditional positive self-regard -- Stories for maintenance -- Leaving the past behind -- Preventing relapse -- Becoming whole -- Appendix a: mindfulness overview and narratives -- Appendix b: adult attachment questions -- References -- Index -- About the author.

Electronic reproduction. Palo Alto, Calif. : ebrary, 2011. Available via World Wide Web. Access may be limited to ebrary affiliated libraries.